We're in to the middle of January and still on hot on the heals of our New Year's Resolutions.
I've been talking to a lot of people who are thinking about what they want to change about their businesses, jobs and personal lives.
The hottest personal goal: work-life balance.
My immediate response: LOL
HERE'S THE DEAL.
This thing we're doing. You know, living?
It's ALL life. Every part of it.
The work. The family. The friends. The you.
To achieve balance is an impossible measure. There will always be something that takes more of our attention than other aspects of our life. Because guess what. That's life.
So instead of setting our sights on something that's not within our grasp. Here's what I want you to focus on.
What it means to flourish.
Why? Well, because it's in my business name (shameless self-promotion).
But seriously. I want you to focus on what it really means to feel proud of what you are doing in every part of your life.
To feel purpose.
To feel fulfilled.
To look at your life around you and say,
“Yes. This is my world. The overwhelming joy and the disappointment. I wouldn't trade it for anything.”
HERE'S HOW YOU GET THERE
FIND YOUR STRENGTHS
What are you really good at?
Not what you wish you were good at, but what you are really good at doing.
What do people come to you needing help with?
Or, to put it another way, when someone is struggling with something, what help do you offer?
What makes you feel proud of yourself?
Got the list? Good.
Tape it up somewhere. Focus on those things, and find ways to carve out your professional and personal life so that you can utilize your skills.
WHERE DO YOU HAVE ROOM TO GROW?
I'm not saying you're not perfect (yes, I just used a double-negative).
I'm saying I'm perfect and have no room to grow.
There are parts of our life that need expanding.
Usually, that means we need to find ways to not only carve out time to dedicate to those areas, but we need to find solutions to what's not working.
Is there a relationship that needs some attention?
Is there a skill set that you've been wanting to pick up in order to expand your career, business or hobby?
Make a list of your top three parts of your life you want to grow? Be specific. A specific relationship. A specific skill set. A specific area of your business/career.
Now comes the research. What resources are available to you?
Find one resource for each area and dive in.
DON'T FORGET YOU
I know self-care is a big buzz word these days, but it's legit.
If you aren't taking care of yourself, none of these other things matter.
You will not have the emotional, mental or physical energy to work on any of these things if you're burning the candle at both ends.
Are you in a season of life where you're taking care of others (aging parents, small children, teenagers, sick friend)?
This is when self-care is so incredibly important. How can you show up for them when you're feeling depleted?
What's one thing you know will fill your cup that you keep meaning to do but keep putting off?
Write it down. Schedule it. Honor that time.
Email me what you have scheduled and I'll hold you to it!
ASK FOR HELP
You cannot do this on your own. Sorry! I know you really really really want to, but it's just not gonna happen.
And I know. Believe me, I know. It is so hard to ask for help.
We have this really weird idea in our culture that asking for help is, in a way, a sign of weakness.
Guess what? It's not. Shocking. I know.
Do you want it will do for you?
Take something off our plate which will free you up for other parts of your life.
Side benefit: It brings someone else in to your life which can lead to some awesome relationships.
HOMEWORK: What's one thing you want to take off your plate this week? Find someone who can help you with that and reach out. You'll be surprised at how easy it is once you get the hang of it.